Two Persons killed in an accident involving a Honda City driven recklessly by UNDER AGED RICH CHILDREN . Teenager Boy held for Mangalsutra theft , coming from a WELL-EDUCATED family Background . Nowadays SUCH crimes by juveniles coming from a GOOD FAMILY BACKGROUND are on the increase . It is said in India that your Behavior reflects the family background one is coming from . But then , when Parents are well Educated ,why are children committing such crimes ? ! This poses some serious questions on issues relating to Responsible Parenting , our Social Circle INFLUENCE and a few more issues.
1} RESPONSIBLE PARENTING : LOVE VS MONEY
Now days Parents are spending a whole lot of money on Performance Enhancing Products [PEP] for increasing the performance of their wards in Exams .These products ensure best performance in exams * . They Include
- Blackberry Phones with that monthly pack of unlimited services . SO that they can talk to friends on phone all night to socialise.
- Apple [ An Apple is the need of the day ] , Ok Next best is Dell or the least bargain is HP . Acer , Toshiba ..huh .. Do they even manufacture laptops ?!!
- Motorcycle R15 , CBR 250R , Ninja 250 R , CBR 150 R [ Latest ] , KTM Duke 200 ..its amazing though ! :P Otherwise no one settles for less than a 150 cc bike .
- List goes on which include Petrol , weekend eat outs , Club , New year party , Valentines day , Monthly recharge .
Then there are coaching classes which charge upwards of 20 K for competitive exams . Can go upto 1.5 lacs ! With the new scheme of exams the coaching classes would not make any sense . But who cares , who'll go for the 2nd Best .
Some parents spent it because they CAN & think that these will Really help in enhancing their wards performance in results . Some are reluctant to do but are forced to because of EMOTIONAL ATTYACHAR by children . So here are two cases i would like to enlighten on .
[COST OF PEP's turns out to be more than 1 Lac !!!!!!!!!]
a]- Parents who can Afford - Common ..we all know these PEP's don't help at all BUT they act just the opposite to the MAIN CAUSE . These are not at all required . Whilst buying a laptop a few days back for a friend i was stunned to see a 10th std guy with his Dad asking the showroom manager to show a Laptop with 1 gb Graphic card . We all know what he is buying it for . His Dad was OK to buy one for him . Did not seem to be with soo much spare money . SAD :(
b]- EMOTIONAL ATTYACHAR - We will not study unless we get this or unless we get that . Such are the outcomes of EXCESSIVE LOVE showered by parents compromising on Discipline . Parents just bow down to such STUPID requests by their wards no matter what. But this problem of EA will worsen with time . They are not making them aware of the ground realities . Such UPBRINGING is asking for trouble in future . Parents should realize that all this will affect the personalities , children don't learn to be self dependent and then LACK courage to FACE life .
2} SOCIAL CIRCLE PRESSURES :
A friend buys a cell phone , a bike or some shit . But whatever the COSTS involved are and whatever the SPENDING POWER of parents , wards just want that thing no matter what . They just do the Ctrl C Ctrl V thing without putting their own common sense in mind . I think everything should arise from a NEED . There should be a basic need for that thing . But OUR need is something which wards never think of whilst buying these days . One should know what one needs , at least when they are dependent on their parents . Children are committing crimes to finance their stupid needs .
LAST WORD :
I am not saying that one should not have a BB phone of an apple pc , its just that one should realize their genuine NEEDS .If one can afford it , they certainly should . Parents need to inculcate in their wards the costs involved in their needs . Robert Kiyosaki's Rich Dad Poor Dad is recommended to parents and also to their wards . There is a need of Financial Literacy among students and their parents . Decisions should not be made out of emotion , be it happy or sad . There should not be any EMOTIONAL ATTYACHAR , that is Bad and is very SAD . There should be a clear dialogue between parents and their wards on their spending powers /capacity . Overspending on children can be FATAL and more importantly their ATTITUDE towards life goes wrong because of Excessive Love . There is lots more i can add here but i think one gets the message here . Financial costs of raising you ward for a successful career is HIGH . One just needs to manage it and cut down on PEP's as much as possible .
The Author here has committed some of the mistakes above[ not the crimes though ] :D and he realizes a need to share this knowledge with parents and their wards . :)
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